Breaking Up and Moving On

Breaking up is never fun. The end of a relationship means the beginning of a period of mourning and healing for both people. If the break up was mutual both people will experience a period of adjustment where they are getting used to no longer being together. If the break up was not mutual the person who ended things may be dealing with guilt and feelings that they may have made a mistake. The person being broken up with will definitely have to adjust, first to being rejected and second to life without somebody they still care for. How do you get through those first few weeks? Here we list eight essential things everybody must do in the early days of a break up to let the healing begin.

1. Avoid the former love. Yes, avoid. No, this isn’t being immature. Seeing your former flame can bring out emotions and may cause you do to or say something you will regret. In the first few weeks the best thing you can do for yourself is not be where you know they will be.
2. Talk out your feelings with close friends. Get everything out so that you won’t hold it inside. Your friends may get sick of hearing you talk about the situation but you need to let out all your feelings and thoughts or they may come back to bite you later.
3. Cry if you want to. It’s OK to cry over a loss. Don’t hold back, let the tears roll just do it in a safe and private place where it is unlikely to get back to your ex. You don’t want your tears to be used as a guilt trip. Their purpose is to cleanse you of any pain not make your lover come back.
4. Let go of mementos. Put away or give away anything and everything that reminds you of the relationship. Hide them out of sight so they will be out of mind until you are able to remember the relationship without longing for it to still be going strong.
5. Don’t slip up and get together with your ex. When you are feeling sad or missing a relationship it can be very easy to fall back in to the arms of your ex but DO NOT DO THIS. This will only set you back and let’s face it, if things ended the relationship wasn’t perfect to begin with so why would you want to rekindle things?
6. Focus on all the things about your ex that drove you crazy, turned you off, or that you just plain found annoying. Think about these things often and replay them in your mind over and over. Dwell on them. It will make you feel better to remember that your former flame was not perfect and that there are things you won’t really miss.
7. Think about the mean, cruel or rude things your ex may have done in your relationship. Really give these things play in your memory. Remind yourself that somebody who truly cared for you would not have done such thoughtless things and tell yourself (over and over) that you are better off without that kind of ego crushing behavior in your life.
8. Maintain a strict no contact policy and stick with it. Don’t pass notes through friends. Don’t make any calls. Stay away from instant messaging or texting on your cell. Just don’t contact your ex until you are totally and completely sure you no longer want to be with him or her. It is the only way.

Mending a broken heart is not easy but it can be done. Just stick to the game plan outlined above and before you know it you’ll be just fine. Good luck!


http://teenadvice.about.com/cs/breakingup/a/breakuphelper.htm

Mencari Diri

No one is close enough to know me... or nobody has known me completely... because.. every march... I will change to somebody else... the reason is I want to know who I really am... and which one that comfort me so well...

2002, Quite (mix)

I act himself as Transquilz (the quiet one) my friends don't know anything but my name... I'm too quite until you didn't notice me even I were beside you... I refuse to talk, refuse to communicate with anybody, don't want to involve....*yeah, I'm a kid with a huge problems*

2003, Rude (black metal)

This year is the year I'm getting to form 1... I'm simply rude to my friends and teachers... because their still stranger to me.. I don't like stranger..(until now I don't like stranger) nobody want be friend with me because of my attitude.. but after I join Hockey Club.. my teammates were my friends

2004, Cool(cold) (alt rock)

As a form2 student.. I'm followed RP gang(rebelious punk) under Azif's brother in Tutong... what I meant cool is, my appearances....totally different from now haha and playing Yo-Yo is the thing that I do.. I put it in my pocket even @school...if got fight, I use yo-yo as my weapon..*simply as that* what I meant cold is... I'm just don't care about "YOU", paham kan? =)

2005, Emo(the worst year EVAAAA) (emo)

why I put Emo? I was so emotional... I'm out from RP gang but still contact with them and hang out with them that time.. I'm having my first gf, *not my 1st love*, and this is the year that I accidently broke my right knee(severe injury) causing me had to stop any heavy activities such as Hockey, Football, and etc.... ='s eventhou I try to become emo but failed because this year was soooo many things happend and I don't want to point every thing of it that cause me to the next year.

2006, Nobody (emo,alt rock,metal)

Nobody... this is where I knew I got no friends.. and having nightmare more often... this year, I'm prefer to be alone.. early morning at school I go to a place that nobody there.. I will stayed there until class begin.. nobody care bout me because I'm just nobody.. everyday depress... every night crying...*yeah, I know... pathetic) ==' but it really happend

2007, Kind (rock and metal)

now, I got 3 friends that simply the best... their both ex-RP gang.. so I knew them.. perubahan amatlah ketara dimana aku mula melayan kawan2 ku..mula kenal2 rakan kelas ku.. 5A and 5Sci is my friends that tym... =) hehe feeling good friends with you eventhough having the enemy be a friend.. *talur* later I was told by my teacher that I'm one of the kind....

*extra*there a scene in this year where I'd break up with my girl... and I cried about One Night! and that was the last time I cried about love...

2008, Kind (pop)

I'ld continue my personality from previous year... but I didnt get the one of the kind title..because of I'm involve in a fight where I taking the hit that aiming to my friend ==' hehe erm apa lagi? inda bnyk la.. memandangkan aku injured...inda bnyk activity aku buat..inda banyak perubahan...sama macam taun lepas...

2009, Laugher (heavy metal)

malas ku explain..nanti2 sha ku explain...sal baru taun lepas wa hahahaha

2010, ?????? (?love?)

............................. what will it be?

Abis Creativity dah ka?

hari ne kami ada latihan di bandar for National Day... we had to come early as 4.00am because we need to shows our faces before 5.00am... but then.. we had to wait for the bus kira2 jam drg sampai ato dalam 5.45 catu la... inda pedah jua to... kami jalan lepas kul6 pagi ato...

Bila dah sampai di Tempat Berkumpul ato... inda da kami sempat makan breakfast ==' *sigh* kena suruh berbaris for marching... that time is like around 8-9am maybe.... selepas kami marching to.. the guys need to be stay arah padang ato for what?? 2hours ja kami sana and kerja kami diri........... that all.... (except: berikrar and nyanyi ato)

part yg persembahan... ==' abis creative dah ka? dah tah tema tahun ne "Negaraku Brunei Darussalam"? Come On la Brunei! Napa Makin Bureng ane? All the Celebration is been halted/cancelled... The People of Brunei(The Parents) nowadays won't let their kids participate for the Celebration Day.... How Stupid Is that? Kecewa Sultan lau ia tau pasal ane... Harap2 nada lagi yg menhampakan.

Compare to the Previous National Day Celebration... It was Awesome... remember the National day that held during the night?that was the best!..I forgot the year it is...huhuh

aku ceta arah mama ku yg nada persembahan pun ia ckp Bureng... aku baru cakap nada persembahan...alum g yg part lain to... *sigh* as a Bruneian...sabar ja...

tagged by Si Cawan (Cindy) Yeah! I know!! --> Moving Forward geeez

1] Two names you go by?
Latiiff and L

2] What four things you are wearing right now?
; green Long Sleeve Fishing Shirt, Baggy Pant, Gelang, samaaaaa.. 4 things ryt?? erm.... Boxer? xp Haha

3] Are you in a Relationship?
; Nope...hehe..hmm

4] Have you ever been given a rose?
; I'm a guy? lain rasa ku lau kena bagi rose.haha

5] Have you ever licked a photo?
; inda pernah haha

6] Have you ever been in love?
; Ever?silly you... Pernah la

7] Do you believe that everyone has a soul-mate?
; Yeah

8] What's your current problem?
; My Fever XD

9] Have you ever had your heart broken?
; awuu pernah.. dah ku gitau kali a.. semalaman ku menangis smpy aku inda dpt nangis2 lagi lepas to haha Frozen heart dah kli.

10] Do you have a crush?
; Do I?

11] How many kids do you want to have?
; maybe 3 or 4? xp lau banyak2 takut aku yg inda mampu jaga..haha

13] What is/are your favorite colour/s?
; Green

14] Have you ever found it hard to tell anyone you like them?
; Yeah, Pretty Hard

15] Imagine you're 40 & your spouse just died would you get re-married?
; Inda.. =)

16] What song do you want played at your wedding?
; I leave that to my "wife" to decide

17] Do you like/love anyone?
; I do, =)

18] Do you think the person(s) you like/ loves, love /likes you back?
; Nope......................

.... *silence moment*.......................................

19] Have you ever wrote a love song/ poem/ letter/ note?
; Song and Poem inda pernah...Letter?pernah, Note?Pernah hahaha ketawa ia membaca hahahaha maklum la aku ne inda pandai kn berjiwang

20] Do you want to get married?
; Ofcoz... tapi tunggu aku sedia ja la =) tanggungjawap toh

21] Are you a shy person?
; with someone I love.... yeah!!! =='

22] Did you have a good day today?
; Nope.... I'm just having a rest today =)

23] Where did you just get back from?
; Nowhere. =)

24] What are you thinking about?
; Si atu atu.... *sigh* moving forward~~~ I know~ I know~~ hehe =)

25] If you could change something about you or anything what would it be?
; If I could... I don't want the "Severe" Knee Injury..... ='s

26] Would you ever go back to any of your past relationship?
; I would.. tapi lau dipikirkan.. nda payah... =) where the fun lau catu?haha

29) Who's the closest person/people to you?
; nada sapa2..inda tau lau diluar...aku dlm bilik tym ne..

30) What's the thing you love about the pearson you love?
; Her cute smile..... *sigh* I know I know~~ moving forward hahah

31) Who is the person you hate most?
; My brother ofcoz...

32) Where will you be 2 hours from now?
; no idea... Maybe Di dapur kali cari makanan hehe

33) Where will you be 4 days from now?
- I don't plan...I compromise things =D

35) Does your ex miss you?
- Semalam ia MC aku~ haha tapi aku titooo dah hahaha

36) Does anyone love you?
- ngak tau dong~

37) What are you doing tomorrow?
- Marching~~~ Mengibar bendera sambil Batuk2 ahhahahaha

38) Where were you at 9am this morning?
- Gue Mandy toh XD hahahaha

39) Everything happens for a reason?
- Anything Happens for a reason..... *sama ja* hahaha

40) What does your last text message read?
- "Thank you for recharging your Easi account. your forfeited Easi Credit $24.73 is now refunded." from DSTcare. Heheh

41) What are you listening to right now?
- Aku liat tivi tym ne..... Disney Channel....hehe

42) How has the week been?
- Knowing she with somebody else, caught a fever, marching, not eating anything for about 3 days, what did you expect? =((

43) Who do you miss?
- erm~~ si atu atu,*I KNOW moving forwarrd* HISH hahaha and Alai =)

44) What if a friend backstabbed you?
- Aku Sipak ia smpy ke Iraq! biar jubuynya Merah Menyala Mengalahkan Baboon! hahahaa

45) What can't you wait for?
- I don't know... erm... antah

46) Who do you think among your friends are beautiful?
- Si atu atu *sigh* auu belum aku lupakan ia..Haisshh Dun presure me up akeh? geez

47) What does friendship mean to you?
- antah..lau aku tau... nada ku jahat ma kawan ku hehehehe xp

48) What is your love day?
- I don't have any..Love day ane apakan?? hari yg ko making selalu ka?HAHAHA Panat

49) How do you handle when your boyfriend/girlfriend dump you?
- Depends la... Last girlfriend dump me... erm I'm just sit quite in school and let the time do the rest... lau si gf 2007... atu yg sedih banar2 ku hahaha..semalaman....

50) How do you laugh?
- ANNOYING LAUGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! XD KAN,KAN?KAN?!!!! HUAAHAHAAHAHA

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